The No. 1 Reason Why I Decided to be a Stay-at-Home Mom

 

 

It was October 2013 when I gave birth to my daughter, Macey, and yes, she’s already turning four this month! How time flies… She’s now an active, smart, and sweet little girl, who doesn’t want to be called little or baby girl anymore, but rather, a “big girl”.

Few months after I gave birth to Macey, I went back to work for two months and then I decided to resign on my 7th year anniversary with the company. It was funny because I stayed with the company for 7 years, but the company name has been changed three times – from Etelecare to Stream to Convergys. Yes, I used to work in the call center before, where I also met my husband. 🙂

I resigned from the company because I wanted to take care of Macey. I wanted to be a full-time mom.

During the last two months of my job, I had been feeling guilty, unhappy, and depressed whenever I leave home to go to work. As soon as I step out of our house, I would usually burst into tears thinking that I wasn’t a good mother, that my daughter doesn’t like me because I was always away from her, and I felt bad thinking that she favors her nanny more than me. Even at work, I would often go to the bathroom just to hide my tears. I couldn’t stop thinking about her.

So, I resigned!

It was one of the most difficult decisions I had ever made in my life.

One, because I knew that our financial situation will be affected.

Two, I was planning to work at home but I had no idea how and where to start.

Three, my husband and our parents initially did not approve of my decision to resign and just be a “stay-at-home” mom knowing that I graduated college with high honors, I took a second degree in teaching and passed the licensure exam, and I took some units for my Masters Degree at UP Diliman. They thought that all those “achievements” will be put to waste if I was just going to stay at home.

I know they had a point.

But for me, those things weren’t my priority at that time. What I wanted to achieve was to be a “good mother” to my child. She can survive without me (because she had a very loving and responsible nanny), but I knew she needed me more than anybody else. And for me, taking care of her is more than any achievement or title that I could ever have.

I didn’t know what’s going to happen. I didn’t know if my husband’s income could sustain our needs. I didn’t know what other people would say about me, being a wife and a mother who’s just staying at home and not working to help our family’s needs.

There were many worries, fears, and what-ifs, but I took the leap and did it anyway. In short, I became a stay-at-home mom.

What happened after I resigned?

Many things happened. After I resigned in May 2014, I tried various home-based opportunities including blogging, stock market trading, forex trading, and teaching, but none of them worked so well on my first year as a struggling work-at-home mom.

Organizing Workshops

In 2015 to 2016, I became an event director of Manila Workshops where I help organize seminars and workshops. I learned a lot and enjoyed doing this. I also met a lot of friends and I got the chance to work with my idols in finance, freelancing, and online marketing.

While I was organizing events and workshops, I was also blogging on the side. I started monetizing my blogs in May 2016. Then, I was given an opportunity to share what I know about blogging by conducting workshops as a speaker.

I may not be very active now in handling workshops, but I will always be grateful to Ginger and Manila Workshops for the opportunities, learnings, and friendships.

My income from the workshops wasn’t bad, but I knew I needed to work harder and smarter to help my husband with all our expenses.

Blogging

I saw a potential in blogging – that if I focus and become more serious about it, most probably I can learn more, earn more, and share more.

It was another difficult decision to go slow on handling and conducting workshops, but I had to do it so that I could focus on blogging.

I’m grateful that I found a mentor, who is now a good friend of mine, who willingly, unselfishly, and patiently teaches me how to blog properly to be able to monetize it. In fact, she’s my inspiration and role model. She started small six years ago and now she’s earning big, as in big.

Her experience always reminds me that nothing is impossible – that if she can do it, I can do it too. It may take time, but I know it’ll happen if I allow it to and if I take action.

It’s been six months since I started working really hard on my blogs and I’m slowly seeing positive results on my revenues. It may not be that big yet, but I know I’ll get there…

What I do now….

Right now, I’m a full-time mom to my very clingy “big girl”, a full-time blogger, and a part-time workshop director and speaker.

I’m happy with my life right now and I’m so grateful to God for all that I have. And because my husband also works at home now, we share our responsibilities at home and as a parent to Macey and we enjoy more quality time with our family.

That’s it for now. Thanks for reading and I hope to talk with you again very soon! 🙂

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